As a single girl about to turn 25 in a few weeks, I definitely get sucked into the trap of comparing my life to the lives of everyone else around my age. I see the majority of my friends already married, having kids, and buying homes. Meanwhile, I’m just chillin with my pup Rosie trying to learn how to not set off the smoke alarm every time I try to cook in my apartment. #sorryneighbors
However, recently the Lord has really been working on my heart and showing me the beauty and blessings of this season. It’s easy to feel like your falling behind or falling short when your eyes are focused on what everyone else is doing. But that’s the problem! Rather than fixing our eyes on Jesus, we are so focused on what “she’s” doing, or our own expectations for how we think our lives should look by now; that we are blinded to what He is doing in our own lives!
Around Christmastime I was chatting with a few friends that are my same age, but we are all in very different seasons of life. I remember saying “I just wish God would go ahead and bring the right guy into my life! I’m so tired of feeling like the last single girl standing!” My friend that has been dating started sharing about how she wishes her boyfriend would go ahead and propose already, while my friend who is engaged was sharing about how she wishes she could skip all the wedding planning and just jump to the big day! Meanwhile, my married friends began to share about their struggles, prompting the toddler Mom’s to share how much they missed the freedom they had when they were single now that their lives are devoted to their little ones! Full. Circle.
This is what I took away from that conversation:
It is so easy to get fixated on the NEXT that we miss what God has here for us in the NOW.
We were all so focused on rushing through our current seasons, that we were missing the beauty of where God has us currently! It is so tempting to want to rush through life pining for the next thing. Whether it be a new relationship, marriage, kids, a career, whatever. I think we as humans have this standard timeline en-grained in our minds with how we think our lives are supposed to go. And the second our plans start to derail or we fall behind, we panic and want to take control. I can look back at times in my own life where I have done this, and can I just say- it. is. not. worth. it.
But ya’ll, we will never be satisfied with the next thing if we don’t learn how to be content in our present waiting. Because it’s in the waiting where the Lord is growing us and working in us. The waiting is where we learn to become truly dependent on him.
“I am certain that I will see the Lord’s goodness in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart be courageous. Wait for the Lord.” Psalm 27:13-14
David’s words in Psalm 27 have come to mean so much to me in this season! The waiting is where God meets us. It’s where life happens. No matter what our current circumstances look like, we can wait, be expectant, that we WILL see the Lord’s goodness in our lives. Abraham & Sarah, Joseph, David, Martha, and so many others had to wait years for God’s promises to be fulfilled! But it was in the waiting where God did the greatest works in their lives to prepare them for what was coming next.
I began this blog post in December of 2017 and never finished it. Mostly because I didn’t know what to say because I was struggling so much with wanting to rush my story and get on to the next chapter of my life. Waiting can be uncomfortable and scary not knowing when and if our desires will ever be fulfilled! However, I am so thankful for the time in between starting and finishing this post and how God has changed my view of this season. Do I still struggle with singleness and wanting this season to end? I’d be lying if I said I was totally content 100% of the time. However, I can honestly say that through learning more about God’s character through His Word, the friendships and mentors He has brought into my life to encourage me in this season, and fixing my eyes on Him, it has become a season I love, can see the blessings and purpose in, and I am so thankful for that!
So if you’re in a season of waiting that you’re wanting to rush through, remember this truth:
The Lord has you in this present season for a purpose. Pray and ask God to show you the unique blessings and gifts of this season! This season won’t last forever, so don’t waste the wait.
“For the vision is yet for the appointed time; it testifies about the end and will not lie. Though it delays, wait for it, since it will certainly come and not be late.” Habakkuk 2:3